Do you have problems with looking presentable?
I've always been told the same "you would look so beautiful if you wore make up/did your hair/used pretty clothes/lost weight". I'm going to the gym, I'm not fat and I'm not skinny, I'm curvy so I'm kind of comfortable with my body. The issue is that I want a partner, and I know that looking like a femcel discord mod 24/7 won't help, but I can't bring myself to have a structured routine with skincare, body care, make up...it's a lot, and i feel so overwhelmed with the sole thought. Also here in my city all the cute clothes are for a) petite girls or b) A cup girls, and I'm neither, also cute outfits for me 99% of the time are overstimulating. This is why I admire so much girls that put genuine effort into their looks, I wish I looked prettier.