Help soothe my anxiety about asking bridesmaids to be bridesmaids

I have two MOH, both have been friends for 25+ years — they are like my sisters. Originally I was only going to do those two women and my fiance was going to do his two best friends who are like brothers to him as best men.

He ultimately ended up deciding to have more groomsmen because he's close with a few other guys. I know I don't have to match his number of groomsmen, and I'm not trying to, but I would like to ask a few other women to be bridesmaids.

The two best friends who are co-MOH are lightyears beyond any other friends I have, because we're SOOOO close. So my next tier down of friends are all the kinds of friends that I could ask or not and I don't think they'd be offended if they weren't asked (but actually I have no idea! maybe they would?? this is part of my problem lol).

I have 2 friends who I've been really close with for 2-3 years and talk to very frequently. I wouldn't call them best friends (I think I only reserve that for my 2 friends who are like sisters lol), but they're the ones I see/talk to the most.

I have another friend who I've known for about 2 years, she started as my client but grew into a friend and we don't talk super often but just have a really nice friendship and are so supportive of each other. She and her boyfriend came to have dinner with me and my fiance the night before we eloped (we're still doing a big wedding next year). They were the only people we asked to come celebrate with us because we wanted it to be low key and they have such a beautiful and supportive vibe. Her boyfriend gets along SUPER well with my fiance as well.

I have another friend who I just met in October, but we sort of instantly became best friends and already professed that we both feel SUPER close and were worried that maybe the other didn't feel the same way but we confirmed we do! She brought it up first, so I know she feels really connected already even though we haven't known each other long. We've hung out practically every week since we met.

SO, I have these 4 friends — I'm just feeling really anxious that maybe they don't feel close enough to be a bridesmaid, or that we haven't known each other long enough (last friend I mentioned).

I know being a bridesmaid is an expense and I don't expect them all to come to the bachelorette. I'm not picky about what dresses they wear, and won't have them standing up on the altar with me and my husband. All to say, it's going to be a relatively chill commitment, and I'm a very low-key and go with the flow person.

I've had friendships in the past where I thought we were close and then it was clear they didn't like me as much as I like them. I don't think that's the case with any of these women, but old feelings are coming up and making me scared that they'll feel weird that I asked them, or feel bad saying no, or that it'll mess up our friendship somehow.

Part of this is definitely because I was just the MOH in a friend's wedding who had kind of nightmare bridesmaids who were dramatic and mad they weren't MOH or ended up dropping out, etc. and it was just so much drama. NONE of my friends are dramatic like that so I don't even think that's a possibility, but I'm still recovering from how overwhelming that was lol.

If the tables were turned, I would be honored that any of these women asked me to be a bridesmaid and would be delighted to support them. I'm just nervous that maybe they wouldn't feel that way towards me.

TLDR: I'm a little shy when it comes to friendships bc I don't want to scare people off, but I love hard, so I'm always nervous I like people more than they like me. I'm anxious to ask 4 women that I'm decently/very close to to be my bridesmaids and worried that somehow I'll make the friendship weird.

Please help calm my anxious mind 😅