finding someone who heals your inner child while encouraging your growth together 💖

I (f25) don’t have many fond childhood memories. As a neurodivergent, poor, and chubby kid that moved frequently, I was an easy target for bullying. I already found it difficult to socialize, and that definitely stunted it.

Living below the poverty line, i was aware very early on that other kids lived differently, and had to quell my jealousy during holidays and summer breaks when they would be getting gifts and experiences my family couldn’t afford. It’s valuable to learn not to covet, but it’s still difficult for a small child to understand. You wonder what’s wrong with you.

I started working at 15 to pay bills, and my first relationship at 19 was one of emotional abuse and isolation. Finally, when I was 23, I was able to get free of him, and started building my own social circle. I got much healthier, both physically and mentally. I also found a job I love, one that treats me really well!

A year later I met my partner (m26) and my world was changed for the better! We’re both nerdy, sensitive goofballs. He loves to indulge in silly activities with me, while also encouraging me to do the things I still struggle with. We have a large blended friend group now too, as they all get along!

For my birthday, I wanted to do something for both child me and adult me that I’ve never gotten to experience. So he’s taking me to build-a-bear (I could never afford it growing up) and in the evening we’re going to a fancy jazz dinner club! I’m crying typing this out because I’ve found someone who’s so genuinely excited to do these things with me. Who doesn’t belittle my interests, just enjoys them with me. It’s truly so healing. Wishing you all the same joy!