why am i so manipulative?

Seriously, what's my problem?? How can't I do this to someone!??? I can't help but lie about my feelings and beliefs just to please someone and it makes me feel bad, I don't want to do this anymore, it happens and then I end up regretting it and I end it all at once. .. I convince myself that it's not worth spending any more time with that person and I cut them off. I hate my self for it.

Is this normal for every INFJ?

sorry any mistakes in the english, im still learning