Rant - people's ignorance about female fertility

I'm 39 and single. I didn't have a chance to date for most of my life because I was dealing with severe mental illness. There were years when I couldn't even leave the house. I worked really hard and got a lot better, and now I have people telling me it's too late to have a child. These people are not doctors. The only thing, literally the only thing, they know about me is my age.

I had some people quote statistics to me yesterday about how if you don't have a kid by 30, there's a 50% chance you'll never have one. And someone told me that I can't blame men for wanting fertile women instead of me. And if I want a partner, I should look for men who don't want kids or already have them. It's just extremely hurtful because they're basically telling me that I missed the boat on having kids and need to settle for less in life. And again, these people are not doctors. They don't know the first thing about my fertility. I don't think they really know anything about female fertility at all other than whatever comes up in the first three search results on Google.

It's just really disheartening as I try to prepare myself to freeze my eggs, to have people tell me it's already too late and I need to just accept that I'm not going to have children. When they don't know the first thing about my fertility and simply can't say that. I haven't been to a doctor, but I know that I haven't entered perimenopause yet, and all the women in my family are very fertile. My grandmother had my dad when she was almost 50, completely naturally, and he was the healthiest of the bunch.

And it also sucks to know that there are guys who will find out how old I am and instantly write me off as dating material even if they would have liked me otherwise. Again, they would just be assuming I'm infertile because of my age without really knowing anything. And that just feels so icky to me - like "oh, I would have liked you, but you're over 35, so you're less than ideal broodmare material for me, I'll have to pass because I'd like a younger incubator." Frankly, I don't want to date a guy like that anyway because I want someone who genuinely loves me, not just what my body is able to do for him.

I already have a lot of anxiety about all of this. It just really sucks to have to deal with unsolicited input from the peanut gallery on top of it.