Dating as Demi

How do people date as demi? I feel like dating is so hard. I am on dating apps but I hate them because I feel like everyone I am talking to expects sex. I don't want to do sex until a certain threshold is met in my brain (varies by person so can't define it well lol). So I feel like I am leading someone on when I know I won't want to do sex, but just dumping demi on people in my area is so confusing for them. How do you all meet people to date lol I don't quite know how to go a bout it