Husband’s bad attitude

Having a hard time with my baby's daddy. I'm a FTM and have a two week old son from a C-section. Pretty soon after birth I already knew my husband was going to struggle with just dealing with basic newborn stuff. So pretty much on the first day of being kept in the hospital, I was caring for my son throughout the night, feeding and changing diapers, carrying him around, etc., while my husband slept through everything (and still would complain to my face how he didn't get enough sleep). I couldn't even catch up on sleep during the day time because so many hospital staff would drop by and I had to tend to matters.

My son has moments where he has blowouts and pees with every diaper change. Usually this is during my husband's "shift" with the baby. He watches the baby 4PM to midnight, and I'll watch the baby midnight to 8 AM (although my husband frequently "sleeps in" so I end up watching the baby from 12AM to sometimes 1-2PM). I've witnessed my husband getting into melt downs over these diaper changes. He literally can't really handle how messy and out-of-control it can be, and the baby crying just adds more pressure, and then his mind just goes blank and he'll get frustrated "at the situation." Today he told me that he is thinking to just let the baby cry until he's tired and all pooped and peed out, then he'll change the diaper. I vehemently opposed that; I just feel like drawing out an already stressful diaper changing session is just too traumatizing for the baby. At this point I'm pretty fed up with his bad attitude regarding diaper changes and said I'd switch shifts with him if he didn't want to deal with blowouts and pee on the walls. He was pretty angry and kept talking back to me even though I said absolutely I don't agree with letting the baby cry until he's tired during diaper changes, and he started being very rude, interrupting me, and saying I wasn't listening to him (queue the metaphorical grown man with hands covering ears while saying, "Lalala; I can't hear you, you aren't listening to me!"). Anyway, I got sick of it all pretty quick and basically told him fo fuck off with it all, and please actually help prepare formula and clean baby's dishware tonight for fucking once.

Not sure how to deal with my husband's bad attitude. Or am I the problem? Any advice or tips for him handling newborn blowouts and peeing during diaper changes? I admit I'm very sleep deprived and not in the best of moods.