I had one request to my husband…to take candid photos of me and my kids

I’ve talked to my therapist, we’ve been in rough spots, we’re getting better. A small thing, but huge in my mind, is that I have no photos of me and my kids (2yrs and 4months) other than me taking selfies. I have tons of photos and videos of him with the kids, family members of the kids….but literally none of myself and them. Watching them grow older every day and mom is no where to be seen on any of their adventures or smiling faces. It breaks my heart because I LOVE looking back at old photos of myself with my parents. My mom died about 10 years ago and seeing photos of her looking at me as a child makes me tear up because I finally understand that loving your child is unlike anything else in the world. It’s like a little piece of connecting back with her.

I told my husband (because I know if I wait and get resentful thinking he will just do it, it will never happen). I politely and thoughtfully told him it would mean a lot and I would really like for him to just take a few photos of me and the kids moving forward. He point blank looked at me and said that’s not going to happen. Why? Because he says he will never remember. This is a man that prides himself on his incredible memory and doing everything perfectly and precisely. I asked him, you really can’t remember to do this? He said, no. I told him it would mean a lot to me and I don’t think it’s a huge burden. I mean it comes naturally to me, to capture a sweet moment. I’m not talking about clicking every day. I mean literally a few photos, to the point where if you looked thru all the photos we have with the kids it looks like he’s doing a great job being a single dad because mom is nowhere to be seen.

I’m so frustrated and hurt. I’ll talk to my therapist next time I see her but damn. And there was no like oh maybe we can work something out. It was just no, just tell me if you ever want a photo. But that’s not the same as a candid photo with real emotions coming from human beings in the moment.

Am I being too emotional about this?