Anyone else having to break up with their friends after the inauguration?

I'm genderfluid and use she/they pronouns. I texted about how upset I was about the recent EO on "there are only two genders," and one of my friends responded by saying they wanted to argue with me on whether or not there are actually more than two genders. Someone else who is nonbinary tried to explain calmly, then argument escalated when she said "Who are you to decide what your identity is post-conception?", I told her that she was free to disagree but that no one actually wanted to have this argument with her and that she was being transphobic rather than trying to "educate herself" as she claimed to be doing.

She tried doubling down saying that she wasn't transphobic because she "didn't feel transphobic' and that she was just trying to say how she felt. Then said that I was the one being close minded when I said that trans and nonbinary rights aren't up for her to debate the existence of, and that I should've been open to "challenging that assertion" if I really wanted to learn. She eventually apologized but criticized me for not giving her grace when she made a mistake, and that she felt so ashamed because of the way I spoke to her (As if the denial of basic rights can be meet with coddling).

She deleted the entire chat log, and another mutual friend insinuated that it was my fault that she said transphobic things because "I was the one who wanted to talk about politics in the group chat."

So I left. Anyone else going through the same type of thing right now?