The core frustration of people's expectations

I'm probably taking this a bit personally, but one of the main things that makes me feel unable to connect with people is their expectations. I mean, yeah, life isn't black and white, but the gray zone feels threatening to my genuine self. I can't see it as being socially flexible. To me, it feels like giving up a part of myself in order to fit into their standards and norms. If a human relationship, regardless of its nature, doesn't allow one to keep their integrity and authenticity, then I don't see the point in even trying.