Is my husband right? Was he flirting with me?

Assalamu alaykum everyone,

So recently I accidentally hit a car while turning into a car park. I unfortunately didn’t see him (assuming he was speeding). The hit wasn’t too bad alhamdulillah but whilst exchanging details with the car owner and discussing the next steps he asked me what I was doing in the area. It’s a white area and I came down for a hike with a friend. I told him I was here to grab a coffee and will be going down for a hike.

He then offered to take me out for coffee. In his own words he said ‘why don’t we go for a walk together and discuss everything, and I can shout you a coffee or two’? I kindly refused his request and said it was fine and said we can discuss here.

He then asked me whether my car was covered by insurance and I said unfortunately not and he was questioning why. I told him my husband deals with that side of things. He then went on to swear at my husband and said quite degrading things. I was flabbergasted and in shock. I stood there quietly confused with what I’ve heard. I wish I said something..i regret not standing my ground at the sheer disrespect made towards my husband. I was scared and didn’t want to go to his bad books.

It was a bit awkward afterwards. I just went onto exchange my license and take photos do whatever else needed to be done. During this time he asked me again if I wanted coffee. I was visibly distressed and I’m thinking that’s why? Idk? I said that it was fine. He said he hopes I can make the most out of today and that he really wants me to enjoy my day.

Before we left he asked once more. He said I really really want to shout you a coffee. There’s a few cafes over there and I want to take you to my favourite one. Again I refused and said I just need a moment to recollect my thoughts. And then we left.

Anyways I came home and shared this with my husband. He was annoyed and said the guy was clearly flirting and hitting on me. I was like no way.. he saw I was sad and stressed out and was trying to be nice I guess (except for the part where he swore). My husband disagreed saying you women are naive and don’t know the way men think. I said I looked visibly Muslim (abaya - jilbab) and he was as white as can be. I doubt he had any interest in a Muslim woman, for all I know he may dislike me.

He then said it doesn’t matter men love women including Muslim women, in fact non Muslims are fascinated by Muslim women more than you’d like to think. My husband then questioned me on whether I accepted his request for coffee. I obviously didn’t and told him I would never.

Overall my husband is a little disappointed with the way I dealt with the situation and thinks entertained the guy because of my naivety. Both me and my friend did not get flirty vibes but now I’m confused and wondering if my husband is actually right? I mean the guy did ask me out on coffee three times which I did find a bit odd, especially when he insisted but I was too much in shock and stress to delve too deep into it. I just assumed the guy was a bit ignorant with regard to the clear boundaries we Muslims have with the opposite gender.

Unfortunately my husband doesn’t seem to trust me anymore. Told me he won’t be sending me out on hikes even if a friend accompanied me and he regrets allowing me in the first place because I’m clearly not someone that knows danger or setting healthy boundaries with strangers. I guess he is right. I should have stood my ground when he swore at my husband in front of me.

I don’t know what to do or say? What can I say to put his heart at ease? And reassure him that I am trustworthy? And is he right about this stranger flirting with me or is he just acting paranoid?

Thank you.

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Thank you for everyone giving me solid advice. I appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read my post and share their thoughts. Mods can close this thread.