I need clarification

So, we have tender moments and secret times. And also at 100th level of affection (MAY BE SPOILER OR SURPRISE YOU) we can get engaged to our LI. We can unlock secret times by reaching a certain level of affection, so I have no questions with that. BUT we have tender moments that we can get whenever we want by spinning gacha or buying it for wishing well. So, if in the secret times, for example, the ones above level 100, we understand our relationship status (we are lovers), what about in the tender moments??? I mean, among it there are some where we act like friends, some spicy ones and i don't understand at all😭😭😭😭😭 like WHO ARE WE TO EACH OTHER??? or maybe it have a sequence? or we have to go through it in the order it came out????? I’ve been playing LDS since its release HELP