It's just business now

My (44m) wife (45f) asked for a divorce the day after Christmas. In our many conversations since, she said she's been thinking and planning this for 2 years but didn't have the courage until now.

A marriage of 20 years with three kids will always have ups and downs but we both sucked at communicating our feelings.

What came to me this morning was that this is now a business transaction for us. We're looking at finances and a place for her to rent.

She bought a new bikini, has lost some weight and is now working out everyday.

She is checked out and ready to roll.

We are united in the fact that we are putting the kids first. Thank god they are older with one being 19, one turning 18 this summer, and one turning 13 soon.

I've been writing her letters each morning and putting them in her work bag. She never said anything about them so I asked her last night.

I said you're getting those letters in with, right? She said yes and stop writing them. It's not going to change anything and it doesn’t make me feeling anything.

That definitely hurt so it's business now. Gotta let her go.