YOUR EX THAT DOES NOT CARE !

Too hurt to be an adult

I was just watching a video about exes pretending that you meant nothing to them.

What stood out to me was this phrase: "Too hurt to be an adult."

Their actions can seem harsh and painful. You find yourself constantly questioning: How could they just forget about me, block me, and be so mean and cold? Are they even human, like me? It’s even worse when they accuse your pain of being obsessive or label you a stalker, when all you’re doing is trying to process your emotions and heal from the pain they caused.

I’m talking here about healthy relationships—not ones filled with abuse, cheating, or violence. It doesn’t matter how long the relationship lasted; what matters is the connection that was shared.

It’s heartbreaking to go from talking every day, making plans, and sharing so much, to suddenly being blocked, called names, misunderstood, ignored, or erased like you never existed. It’s incredibly hard for the brain to process this. The shock is immense—you find yourself asking, Was this really the person I loved? The person I trusted? The pain runs so deep that it feels impossible to comprehend.

I believe that, in most cases, you did matter to them—probably still do, in some way. Their harsh, seemingly out-of-character actions might stem from their own inability to process their emotions. They might jump into dating someone new right away, or say things like, “You never mattered to me,” or “My feelings weren’t that deep.” But does that mean those words are true? Or are they just too hurt to face the consequences of their actions?

I’m not trying to create false hope or delusions. I just think that sometimes, their actions are better explained by the idea that they’re “too hurt to be adults.” Not everyone can handle emotional pain or take responsibility for the aftermath of their choices.

Please tell me your opinions on this