TikTok is never happy with y/n in fanfiction

I'm in a fandom where there are military ranks and people are never happy no matter how y/n is written.

Are they a higher rank and accomplished? Well that's stupid, how can they be attractive and so high up, they are overpowered and it's cringe.

Are they a lower rank? This is a self insert, why would you make your character so boring and weak? And the character you shipped them with would never be with someone so low on the chain, they have standards.

You just can't win. Though I have only seen these complaints on tiktok, and don't actually read yn fiction, so I don't know how actually relevant it is in the actual community.

But it just pisses me off that people are shitted on no matter the choice they make. I know this is a bit niche, but just something I've noticed.