Is it socially acceptable to have bachelor/bachelorette parties if wedding is strictly immediate family?

Fiancé and I are both military and we have friends and family across the country. We want our wedding to be a short ceremony with a chill brunch reception only involving immediate family, but have so many friends that we want to celebrate with and have them be a part of. Is it rude or weird to have a combined trip to Nashville with all of our friends to celebrate but not have them invited to the wedding itself? Neither of us are having bridesmaids or groomsmen.

We thought this would be a way that would allow some of our friends to even make it at all considering the cost of dresses/suits, plus a flight for bachelor parties, PLUS costs of attending the wedding itself as well. I don't want to offend anyone by making it blatant that they arent invited or have them think going is pointless either.

Edit to address some comments: we would pay for lodging at the very least in Nashville with other accommodations if they are willing to fly out. I would rather have no pre-wedding events than hurt my friends' feelings and the intention was to make sure they didn't feel forgotten about. There is of course no expectation of attendance