Frustrated - Low idle power build - help

So I’m looking to build a low idle power Intel build. However, I feel stuck regarding the motherboard. I read a lot of information about the difficulty people have of getting to lower C states and bad 2.5G Ethernet drivers.

I’ve got four kids and not a lot of time and I’m just looking for something that I can build that’s easy to set up and we’ll just work. Or one that I could buy.

I use my existing one for media and generally need five hard drives, including parity.

Help me appreciate it .