My toddler just saw all her presents from Santa.

I am heartbroken. My husband was supposed to be watching my daughter. I was finishing bows on family presents. For some reason he decided to make lunch; which he doesn’t do. And she wandered into the spare bedroom, took out the toddler bike from Santa that was in a closed closet with all the other Santa presents and I found her in the hall saying “wow bike bike” with it.

I just don’t even know how I feel right now. I put SO much effort into things, and he does this all the time. Gets distracted and stop watching her and doesn’t get that there is a ripple effect for this kind of thing. He ask me why I am upset.

She is 100 percent going to remember the bike tomorrow when she gets it, so it’s now from Mom and Dad. But is she going to remember wrapping paper? I just need to hear how others would handle navigating this.

Edit: wow - I didn’t think this would get so many comments. So there is obviously, like any Reddit post missing things. My husband has a hard time communicating and it comes out as anger when I do mention things. For example: Last night we had a last minute errand and he needed to watch the kiddo in a store so I could look for something for my mom/delayed shipping. He was letting her run around and was getting visually frustrated. I asked him (nicely I have to add as this is Reddit) if he wanted me to hold her and he responded pretty nastily. Then he proceeded to have road rage on the twenty minute car ride home and then slammed the door on our truck. I wish I could say I was being dramatic. Whenever something doesn’t align with his thoughts; he debates his point vs having a conversation and rather die on that hill. If he doesn’t do that he shuts down and kind of ruins the day for everyone. He knows it’s a problem - he’s working on it- I try to back off on any subject that isn’t safety oriented.

I think it’s more a marriage thing; Christmas to us isn’t even about the presents - it was just in that moment of being asked by my husband why should I even be upset instead of him just being compassionate - he just rather prove he is not at fault vs any form of empathy. It hit me as a straw that broke the Mama’s back. We waited a long time for my daughter and I felt like in that moment I failed her - which is obviously silly and not true. I’ve had two pregnancy losses this year, one of which was just recently - so I think I am putting a lot of pressure on myself to be everything I can for my daughter; even when my husband is just not being super helpful. I know putting pressure like that is not good for anyone - I honestly think I was looking for direction as I was/am so hurt.

Tomorrow will still be wonderful/it’s not THAT big of a deal all things considered - I’m just hurt.