How do you take good pictures of yourself when you hate others taking them?

Hey y’all!

I struggle a lot when it comes to pictures. While I am a little overweight, I actually think I’m pretty attractive, have a nice body and cute face - when I take selfies I’m good (I don’t even use filters ever!) but then every time someone takes a picture of me, I feel like the ugliest in all the land. Most pictures on my profile will be mirror selfies and the one photo I did like that someone took.

I already think I’m deeply unphotogenic and have had a couple of people tell me that when they met me in real life (both vanilla and SDs) that I actually look better in person.

Does anybody have any suggestions? What are your tips (aside from obviously losing weight lol)?