Anyone else staying in tonight?

I’m close to 3 months dry and have been having issues socializing without drinking. I had planned to go to a supposedly sober gathering thrown by one of my husband’s friends. Turns out the gathering is not sober at all, there will just be a couple sober people there. My husband still wants to attend both that and another party where almost everyone will be drinking. I don’t feel like getting stranded somewhere until 2 or 3 in the morning watching everyone else drink (I don’t judge others for drinking at all, I just don’t need a giant reminder of the fact that I’m no longer able to drink in my face all night). My other friends are either out drinking or working. I’d rather stay home than attend either of these parties but I’m worried I’ll just feel sad and pathetic all night if I don’t. The decision sounds obvious but I’m afraid this is just turning into my new reality - staying home all the time because I can’t be around alcohol and enjoy myself. Alcohol isn’t going anywhere though; I feel like at some point I’m going to have to bite the bullet and power through some of these events even though I’m not drinking, or else just resign myself to a life of solitude on all major holidays. Not sure what to do.