What is sexy about older bodies?

I'm looking for perspectives and maybe a bit of reassurance.

When you look at an older person's face and body, where do your eyes go? What gives you visual pleasure? How do you see things that might be considered flaws like sagging skin and scars? Do your eyes slide over those things or do you find those things attractive too?

How about touch. What do you notice and enjoy that is different about an older person's body?

What's prompted this for myself is that my face and body have changed so dramatically over the last couple of years due to menopause. Hair loss, loss of skin tone resulting in sags, loss of breast fullness, crinkled hands.

I had started taking erotic pictures of my naked self when this all started, both to share and to kind of document the changes taking place. I took some pics recently and just could not find even a couple that I liked. How I look now is, well, just plain old. There's no lighting or angle or posture that even minimizes the obvious aging of certain areas.

I recently took some selfies for my new Bumble profile and though I was brave and used them anyway, I was kind of crying inside that there is just no way I will look very good anymore unless I go the way of spa level treatments and expensive home use devices.

Even just a couple of years ago, on a good day, after a good sleep, my face and smile looked good. Now, I've got that little bit of a jowl and neck sag that is unmistakable and never goes away. I'm height/weight proportionate, quite strong and sturdy, work out, my friends have recently commented on how skinny I am, but I still sag when I sit.

None of this is about my libido, which continues to be annoying high :)

Just now, my insecurity is rising to the surface again, which I thought I had put to rest. Those damn thoughts that plagued me when I was an acne-ridden teen and young adult are back.

Help? What is uniquely sexy about an older woman's body?