what do you want “recovered” or “symptoms managed” to look like in your life?

i’m struggling with the idea i may not ever be able to get over the things that have happened to me, even subconsciously. even today i was talking to a friend about something and she was taken aback how warped my view on it was. sure, there’s schema therapy which can help rebuild things. but realistically what should i expect in recovery from trauma? will the shame ever go away? the void? or is that unrealistic and a more plausible goal is to manage my flashbacks?

how have you recovered, in any sense? or how do you wish to recover? i need a little hope i guess that not everything will still impact me and that i can have a stable life?