Why can't pakistani parents see their children as autonomous

My parents for the last 2 years have been pushing me for marriage despite my clear objections. I have dreams i want to fullfill and wish to be independent.

Parents will say larki ho shadi jaldi karo 25 saal ke bad koi be nahi ayay gah. Or the obligatory we'll take you back to pakistan and her you married against your will.

I told them no but they went and overstepped by lying to the rishta people that my daughter doesnt know what she wants . They lie to all of them saying my daughter is ready for marriage.

They raised me to be independent while simultaneously wanting me to get married. Ive lived on my own for 3 years, paid my own bills, covered my tuition and fended for myself largely. What makes them think ill give that up for some strange man they find on whatsapp

One top of that my grandmother who visited after a decade of not seeing her called me a disappointment and said that i wasted her trip to canada. As well as the whole make me happy , fullfill my wish of you being married , im going to die soon abd youll regret it

Its been almost 2 years of insults being thrown for not bending to their will. Every rejection i make my parents get visibly upset and throw insults. Or call me shallow or ungrateful or going against allah and islam ans more guilt tripping.

I'm 3 months from graduation its been 6 days in a row of dealing with a new marriage situation. And each time they try to get my opinion and say be honest but as soon as i am they get upset. I've been dealing with school stress but they said get over it