Request for advice: herpes 2 - end of sex

Hey guys, I’m a 29yo M in NYC.

I have been a strong believer of safe sex and condoms. But being in NYC, and seeing majority of my gay friends barebacking and talking openly about sex and Grindr culture (and now Sniffis) altered the way I approached it. So this past February, I actually engaged in bareback sex for the first time and then continued onwards doing that not realizing the risk of incurable STDs.

My last exam a few months ago was negative for everything but recently I tested positive for HSV2.

I am destroyed emotionally and not sure how this will impact my sex life and dating life. It feels like I won’t be able to engage in Grindr/casual sex culture anymore and I’ll now have to disclose to all dating partners - which will result in a lot of rejection and I may need to lower my standards/expectations in the dating pool.

I plan on getting a therapist to deal with this but I feel like I’ll never be able to go back to my old self and since the diagnosis 2 weeks ago - all I can think about everyday is HSV and reading up on it and sitting with the anxiety of how it is going to impact the rest of my life.

Really wish they would speed up the cure.

I am here for reassurance and want to know how has it been dating someone with HSV and dating someone as an HSV+ person.