Weaponised incompetence

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my boyfriend and I are both entrepreneurs and we both work close to our homes. Actually I work 10 seconds away from where I live so maneuvering around home to work is not a problem, but my work takes most of my hours kumliko. he'll be done working at around 3 in the afternoon and i get off work at around quarter to midnight. he likes spending time at my place so most of the nights he's at mine. here's my problem I get of work to come cook for him, by the time i get into that bed it's almost 1 in the morning. then asubuhi i have to be awake by 8 for work. here's my problem i had complained last time when I was cooking and I stepped outside for a bit only to find cooker imezimwa, yaani kwani ata Mchelle hawezi pika? i have three cats, when I travelled i left them under his care only to find my house a mess. he likes tea and i always forget to buy milk because what shops are opend at midnight? Asubuhi he always rants about how i know he likes tea and i dont make an effort of buying milk early enough. i asked him if he really needs tea in his life he should go to quickmart and buy the whole box with around 10 packs inside and bring it home then atakua na chai. mind you he passes through quickmart everyday while going to work and buys his liquor from there too but milk is where he draws the line. today morning i left him at home as i had to be at work by 7;30 he came to my place as he was going to work and told me " paka yako imekunia kwa carpet enda upanguze" . for crying out loud kwani hangechukua tissue apanguze na atupe kwa loo? my cats are healthy so their poop is hard you can just scoop it up ( sio mharo like ati ingemsumbua). i had to finish up then go back home to wipe it. I've brought this up nikaaambiwa " THOSE ARE YOUR CATS BANA not OURS" this has really hurt my feelings juu whatever I do i do it as ours but kumbe kunakuanga na YOURS and OURS. i think kuna vitu too small to be considered gender roles like wiping cats poop surely? ama kujichemshia chai or going to the supermarket for milk, na huyu ndiye unasema one day I'll put my life in his hands if I ever get pregnant or with a child?

also let me add i always feel the biggest respect you can give someone while visiting is just take off your shoes while visiting Mimi i always repeat same shit...... he gets into my house with his shoes and only removes akienda kuoga. i have repeated it now i just watch him.

update: just broken things off and blocked his ass