poc parent constantly telling you that you're white??

does this happen to anyone else?? its annoying af. she constantly tells me she "doesn't know why everyone is racist to me since im white", reminds me my hair isn't "black but dark brown" and that hers is black whenever she gets the chance to (i know its not black but everyone i know irl would describe my hair as black rather than dark dark dark dark brown it even reflects blue sometimes lol), tells me i look like my white dad and that id get bullied in peru for looking so white and that she actually looks peruvian, like wtf if im so white whyd i get called a monkey by a guy in school? why am i constantly asked where im from and why do people always guess im from south america? why did a random guy come up to me and start listing random mexican slang (im not even mexican)? why was i nicknamed dora in middle school? whyd they make me play a drug addict for a school play? why did a guy ask me if i was there to ask for food when i went to donate food for something? why the general hostility toward me in this country? and its not just because im south american because ive met white latinos that don't have any of this happen to them.

i don't know if she's trying to convince me or herself or if her head is still stuck in the colonial caste system, but it pisses me off, its so invalidating toward what i experience daily. my parents have said im white ALLL my life but the racism i face has kind of canceled it out so i guess im raceless now. i have no group of people im similar to... im just raceless. not two just zero. how could i ever identify as either if both just try to get the other to claim me? im just a problem they both want to get the other to fix and im passed around like a tennis ball