Telling others about diagnosis.

Hello. I (63f) had biopsy on 2cm nodule plus smaller one in RUL. Still waiting for full path report, but was told NSCLC confirmed in OR. Will be referred to another hospital for lobectomy and any further treatment.

Quite honestly my biggest concern at this point is telling family/friends. Since I’m a former smoker I’m terrified of an unspoken “I told you so” or “you brought this on yourself “. Any advice on how to handle telling others while avoiding judgement would be appreciated!!

I might also note that I was a diesel mechanic in the 80s and exposed to asbestos in the 90s, which I believe were contributing factors.