Anyone else feel extremely out of the loop?

I don’t know the best way to phrase this but does anyone else feel like they are always out of the loop? Like there is some invisible border that separates you from everyone else? It is something I have felt my whole life but it is just so apparent now that I am older.

We just had our office Christmas potluck and even though I like the people I work with and they seem to like me enough, I feel so detached from the general feeling/attitude/emotion/flow? that everyone else is in sync with.

It makes for some extremely depressing social gatherings. I try so hard to connect and be connected/in the moment but I am always falling short. I don’t know what I am lacking that leaves me on the outskirts.

I don’t know if this is a feeling specific to INFJs or if it’s all a me problem but just curious.