How do INFJ people find relationships?

I can't give a single name of someone that I'd be sure I'd be happy to be in a relationships with. I tend to think about the future and orient my goals towards that but society and people i've met in general don't seem to put much thought about the future. I don't think it's that they don't care, I think they just trying to survive but it doesn't seem healthy. Any other INFJ's struggle with this?