topless pre op in gay clubs/leather bars

So I live in a city where it’s legal for anyone to be topless, and there are gay clubs and leather bars that are primarily for gay men where they have themed nights, including jockstrap nights and leather nights where most people go topless, in fact at some places it’s part of the dress code for these nights. This is focused a lot around hookup culture, obviously. I have a very large chest (for example my old bra size was 38HH, my chest does not pass or come even close) and I’m interested in going to these events and having my chest out just like all the other men. I recently saw some pics of a post op trans guy I know out at a leather bar and he was topless. I instantly felt like, hey, why shouldn’t I be able to do the same? I know cis gay men might not want to flirt or be sexual with me but I still want to be a part of the community and show that trans dudes can look however they want and still be men. I really want to go topless to more events in my city; I feel like I never get the chance to go out without a shirt on like other guys and I feel like gay friendly places are a better option than straight cis places. Am I being delusional here? Should I call ahead and ask if it’s okay for me to come? Should I just say fuck it and come as I am and be proud of my body? Some of our local gay saunas don’t allow trans men unless they pass (for me that would require top surgery, I don’t pass without it) and have an M on their ID. Others are more flexible but they say on their FAQ that you may not be received well by other patrons. I’ve been on T for 3 years and have some facial hair but I will be wearing a mask so that’ll be covered up and not visible. I plan to wear a packer in a jock strap or at least pack with whatever pants I wear. I’m short also. I’m not trying to pass really, just be myself and feel how nice it is to have my shirt off in a social setting. I just wonder if I will be asked to leave or if people will see me as a woman invading this space that is specifically for men to hook up with each other. I don’t own trans tape either and I’d rather just let my nips be free.