How much quiet are you comfortable with?

41m, started a new relationship where we feel very connected through touch, the sex is great, and generally the dynamic feels very comfortable to both of us. It's relaxed and easy.

But there's something missing for me, and it matters. While I definitely have never had a partner that I connect with so well through touch - and am enjoying it - I also need verbal connection. I love when conversation flows between me and a partner - and even if it's not flowing that much, I'm struggling with just how quiet this person is (and how quiet we generally are together).

I try to engage her by asking questions and sharing a bit about what's going on in my life, but the conversation doesn't flow as naturally, or sustain itself, the way it has with some past partners. I'll say this issue - a lack of conversation or feeling not-quite-connected - has been a problem in several past relationships as well. In the past, it led to me ultimately leaving the relationship.

I'm the common denominator in all those experiences, so perhaps it's me, and I'm just not engaging people in the right way. But she seems most comfortable simply being in the room with me while we separate, but together. I'll admit that feels nice for a little bit, but...I also find it kind of boring.

We've only been dating a few months, so it worries me that the relationship feels lacking so early on.

How quiet are your relationships, DO40? For those who find they need verbal connection, have you found ways to establish that with a quiet partner? For those who are content with quiet in a relationship, what's it feel like to be with a partner who needs more conversation?

My sense is this partner is quite comfortable with the level of connection we have.