How to actually get into a relationship

I just turned 30(F) and so thankful for so much of my life. I have a warm and supportive family, great friends, have traveled extensively, gone to schools for undergrad and grad that my younger self could only dream of, and get to work in a job that I love (and that loves me back!) I’m active, had a glow up around 25, and am social, going to events, birthdays, and weddings constantly. People tell me I’m attractive often (I’ve done some modeling) and I get along with most people, as long as you have a good heart.

I love my life and am thankful for so much but I have always wanted to be in love. I’ve been single for 6 years and honestly that relationship only lasted a few months.

There have been many, many dates, a situationship or two, but I know myself and I’m a lover girl at heart. For awhile, there was also stress around dating because of my culture and faith (Nigerian and Christian) and I felt like I got started a bit late (started dating for real when I was 23). A lot of my older siblings and cousins are also single so I haven’t really seen how those beginning stages work at a close level. I feel like I missed something in that I don’t really now how to get into or be in a relationship. It seems so easy for a lot of my friends, that it’s led to a lot of shame and anxiety. I feel confident in every other part of life.

So I guess I’m looking for help. What am I missing? How does one actually find someone to love? Is it actually just luck and timing, or is it a skill set or mindset?