To much sex?
I guess this post is more so to see if others relate to me or maybe if there is an issue with me lol.
I 26F think I have realized maybe I enjoy sex a little bit to much. I often find myself being the want to want to have sex the most in relationship.
To note I don’t jump into wanting sex right away as I wait for a little while after seeing someone (2-3 months) of consistently going out when I would feel comfortable to start exploring new bases. When things get a little more serious is when I start lax and let sex happen naturally. However though once I start having sex with someone I want have it regularly. But I often find I feel like I turn the guy off in a way which is weird because we start off both wanting the same amount.
I do warn them I have a strong drive but now I worry maybe I have a want to have sex to much? Ideally I would to have sex 2-3 times a week. And I’m not talking a sad quickie. like any female I actually need time spent to help me feel good too.
Men is this an issue? Can I be seen as less of a serious relationship type of relationship if I show I like to have sex lol? Or am I just finding the wrong guys lol.
Edit: I maybe should specify I want 2-3 times a week of sex. But i can want to go for up to 4 hours during these day lol (not every time as). So the days I have sex it’s not just a short 20 min thing.
Edit 2: First thank you to those who have not made me feel so alone. It is reassuring to hear someone desires this in a long term partner.
Now for those commenting on my 4 hour comment know I don’t mean every time has to be 4 hours of sex. I’m saying I go up to 4 hours some days. However other days I typically can go for an hour or I enjoy having sex multiple times throughout the day.
The expectation I do have time wise is at least an hour because it does take more than just intercourse to get me off and this is the same for most women. We want sex to be more than just 15 min of intercourse. We require things like foreplay, toys, ect. for us to reach the same satisfaction a man does. Trust me I wish it was as easy to get off like dudes do. But like for many women we require a little bit more to reach satisfaction ourselves.
Once again it’s UP TO 4 hours lol not the expectation every time lol (I work so obviously I do not have the kind of time for this daily). I do however though expect at least an hour which honestly a lot of women expect too (once again it does not mean straight hour of intercourse alone).