My mother doesn't understand that some places aren't safe for queer people

My straight mother doesn't understand that some countries just aren't safe for queer people. If she suggests somewhere to travel to and I say I don't want to go there because it's not safe for gay people or their laws are against gay people, she falls out with me and says I'm just looking to far into it or I'm just being negative, Today she called me depressing because I said I didn't fancy going to italy until their government start to treat gay people better. It's upsetting that people across the world aren't safe simply because they fell in love with another consenting adult. It's also upsetting that I get yelled at and called names for wanting myself and my gf to be safe when travelling. Of course a straight woman isn't going to know the laws of different countries because there's no need or worry to make her look, because oh guess what? She isn't part of the group that's being discriminated against. I just wish she would actually listen and just fucking use Google rather that accuse me of lying and yell at me over it. I hate this and I hate that we even have to worry about laws where we travel.

Edit : a part i left out is she also said 'you're not special just because you're gay'... this isn't the first time she's said this, also says things like 'you don't have to be a victim' or 'stop acting like a victim' and always because I've said something like homiphobic people exist

Edit 2: I am by no means saying that italy is the worst place on earth for lgbt tourists, I totally understand that there are far worse places for lgbt people, its more the fact that if im going to spend hard earned money on travelling somewhere and exploring, I would much rather it be a place where we would be protected by law should anyone think to commit a hate crime, and that I spent 20 years hiding from my sexuality, so paying to go somewhere to hide it again or to not be able to just hold hands with my gf without feeling uncomfortable seems silly to me when there are so many places that are welcoming and accepting of lgbt people. My gf and I have agreed that when the Italian government is in a more accepting frame of mind we will go, until then we will stick to places that maintain equal rights, and if not complete equal rights (marriage etc) then places that are on their way to that and have a more progressive political situation.

It's all about feeling able to exist freely for us, we're a couple and we want to be able to feel free within that no matter wjere we go, we're lucky that we grew up in a country where it's generally accepted (uk), there are some areas where we wouldn't hold hands but when we go on holiday we want a break, not to have to think about getting stared at.