some thoughts on tradwives and their husbands

I’ve been thinking about the whole “tradwife”movement, and something interesting stood out to me. It’s the way they rarely show their husbands or even refer to them by name. Instead, it's always just “my husband.” It made me wonder why that is. Sure, one could argue that maybe their husbands prefer to stay off social media, which is a valid point. But I think there might be more going on here.

In my opinion, if these women actually showed their husbands or used their real names, it might shatter the image they’re projecting—this idealized version of marriage with a hyper-masculine, almost archetypal husband. It could disrupt the fantasy for the men who follow them, who might be drawn in by the idea of being in that traditional masculine role themselves.

In a way, it feels like a form of role-playing. Phrases like, “I submit to my husband” are serious and attention-grabbing, but if they said something like, “I submit to Bob,”it suddenly loses that gravitas and even comes across as a bit comical. It’s fascinating to think about how much of their content is shaped by maintaining this aura of mystery and idealism.

What do you think about this?