Please give us some hope

My husband is 40 and we are set to have our meeting with the orthopedic surgeon for a THR next week. He’s so beat down about all of this. He’s always walked off injury and pain. He’s been a mason his whole life (since 12 years old with his dad) and one of the strongest people I know.

This pain has brought him to his knees. It’s so bad. He can’t function. He can’t walk. He can’t put on his shoes or do any daily living tasks. He’s definitely developed depression from this.

We went in to see about stem cell injections but the doctor who spent his entire career previously doing hip replacements said he wasn’t even going to waste our money- he needed a THR.

I’m watching him now with his head down just so beat down. I’ve read some posts and seen how many people say their pain is so much better. Can anyone help tell me their experiences, what their recovery looked like and how they’re doing now?

I’m hoping if I let him read some stories that he’ll find hope in this process and not believe his life is completely over. He can’t pick up or play with our children and I can tell it’s destroying him.

Thank you all.