Nick’s Toxic Behavior

Therapist here. I’m truly shocked by how many people on here are normalizing Nick’s toxic behavior. Texting someone 100 times a day is not normal. Calling someone 100 times a day is not normal. And showing up at someone’s home at 3am demanding to talk to them is definitely not normal. It’s obsessive and it’s dangerous.

There’s a difference between being in love with someone and being obsessed with them. If you’re in love with someone, you respect their boundaries. If your former partner says they don’t want to talk to you, you give them their space. You don’t continuously try to force them to talk to you. That’s obsession and it means that the man feels like he’s losing control over you and is trying to force you to stay under his thumb.

Ladies, please do not feel sorry for this man! That’s how you get sucked in. He has serious deep seated issues that will take more than just a little rehab (and your unconditional love) to fix. And he will only change if he truly wants to and is willing to do some hard work. So far, I’ve only seen him rolling his eyes and making excuses and playing the victim.

So many women come into my office who are dealing with the debilitating and long-lasting consequences of dating a man like this. Make no mistake about it. This man is dangerous and should never have been allowed to stay on the show.