A lot of people in this sub excuse abusive behavior.

Sandy and Vanessa clearly laid out their experiences with Nick and his substance and alcohol abuse, detailing the rollercoaster of emotions he puts his partners on and yall were so quick to discredit their experience and abuse. Do any of you understand how hard it is to date someone with addiction issues and isn’t looking to seek help for that or their mental health issues?

Vanessa posted on her IG the actual events that lead up to her decision to leave the show and is getting attacked in her comments for it. She exposed him for lying during his psych evaluation by the show and then proceeded to defend her reasons and people are attacking her because it wasn’t her “business” to do that. 1. Nick literally admitted it during the reunion so she isn’t saying anything new, she’s just elaborating on his affected her experience. 2. It is her business seeing as she’s the one who had to face this man during his outbursts. She felt uncomfortable and unsafe, she is not the villain for letting the public know about his dangerous behaviors. She got up there and addressed her experience that was associated with his actions, if it makes you uncomfortable then imagine how uncomfortable she is. 3. HE LIED DURING THE PSYCH EVALUATION I CANNOT UNDERSTATE HOW BAD THAT IS, HE SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN LET ON THE SHOW IF HE COULD NOT HANDLE IT.

It’s very clear that most of you have never dated or know an addict. I have 2 parents who are alcoholics and dated an alcoholic 2 years. Anytime he tried to paint a different picture and dilute his addiction I called him out, and you better believe that if the same shit happened on national TV, I’d do the same thing. You don’t get to do all this crazy shit behind doors and then not take accountability for it while also painting a different narrative of what really happened, that’s an extension of the abuse and manipulation he was putting these women through.

He is not interested in bettering himself, his addiction, or his mental health. He clearly hasn’t seeing as he got up there during the reunion and displayed no signs of changed behavior, so his mask remains on. I have zero sympathy for him, he’s a massive man child who has no awareness. Good luck to the poor woman he’s with currently.

Victims don’t speak out about their abuse because they see how quickly people will coddle and excuse their abuser’s behavior. Next time you wonder why someone didn’t speak about something, remember how fast yall were to defend this type of behavior here. Vanessa is fully allowed to feel unseen and further ostracized because you all want to bully her in the comments.