Dating has been…interesting lol

I’m Bi, Black and Latina. I’ve casually dated women throughout the years and had some beautiful intimate moments, but nothing ever stuck. This year, I’m ready to go all in and see if I can make a real connection with a woman. I am so excited and nervous.

Not to toot my own horn lol but I think I’m a solid catch? Mid 30s, executive-level career, business owner, no kids, nice skin, curvy, curly hair femme. (If that’s your thing, heyyy! 👀)

The issue is, these dating apps are wild 😩 The women are beautiful but then I find out they’re between jobs, displaced, have financial insecurities, or navigating baby daddy drama. And instead of feeling romantic sparks, I just want to be their life coach and help them. 😭 I’m out here literally connecting them with local resources.

What I really want is someone financially stable, ready to see the world, and down to boss up together. I’ve always been the savior in l relationships and so tired of it, sigh :(

I’m even considering hitting up some queer events this year like SweetHeat or Dinah Shore to expand my horizons. Has anyone been? I’m open to ideas—any tips on where a gurl can meet her match? ✍🏾 How has dating been for you? 💕

Update: This thread is amazing!! Thank you. Also, willing to share a pic of myself if you are interested, send dm hehe ;-)