Making Connections/Meeting People?

I'm new to this sub and I'm not quite sure that I fully qualify to be here because I don't necessarily identify with being labeled as queer. Emotional connections and communication are important to me as demisexual. I'm absolutely about quality, but with apps these days it seems to be all about visual appearances.

Most of the spaces I frequent aren't disability friendly and most people don't know I'm disabled until they see me. I have Cerebral Palsy, which is a brain injury so I use a power wheelchair.

I just can't seem to fit in with the people that hike, travel, brunch, and wine all the time.

Even dating aside, I haven't had success meeting people on Bumble (which I thought was for friendship, but I guess not in my area at least ). When it comes to connections I feel like it's easier to relate to people of color, but sometimes I wonder if they view me as too white because I love learning. I've also been told that I'm too educated because I have an advanced degree?

I just want to put myself out there, but I'm not sure how because my disability issues get in the way (pain and not feeling good in general)

What I'm looking for is a connection that is meaningful and not just a spark. I'm a slow burner in the sense that I don't always open up right away, but when I do people seem to like me.

I'm looking to get to know someone for their authentic selves rather than surface level appearances, but I'm getting passed on because I don't match the aesthetic vibe. Physical activity is very hard for me, even though I do exercise in a modified way.

My profile says NSFW because I moderate for a sub, FYI.