36m, any fellow dads that are pushing though

Father of two, an 8 yo and a 1 -1/2 yo. Custody has been split even (if not in my favor). About a 2 years ago when life started hitting hard, I went into law enforcement. I’ve figured out the day to day but I’m still trying to figure out how to balance life…Any dads that have found that balance I would appreciate any insight!