What career impacts have yall faced

Hey yall I'm Amry currently a E6 working on a WO packet

So I'm preeverything right now but I have finally come to terms with myself and want to start to transition (pending what comes in the next month or so). I have be diagnosed with gender dysphoria by a non mil therapist and will be scheduling with BH after I submit my Warrant Packet as a Maintenance Tech. Currently I am being seen by MFLC and had help me accept me. (However my wife has told me if I do this she is gone, because she doesn't want a relationship with a woman 💔) I am wonder what yall have encounter thar may be a hindrance on your careers that maybe a reason not to move forward (my wife's biggest argument telling me I should wait). And for those who have kids (mine are 3 and 1) how was the adjustment for them (especially because my wife would take them considering I move forward)

Thanks for any feedback