How long after marriage/kids did the freaky/nasty talk and sex take to get back going?

Before marriage we would send freak nasty texts back and forth through the day at times. Now after the first kid 11 years ago it basically came to a screeching halt. I can't get her to text or talk about anything but she is very responsive in the bedroom but I do all the talking. Anyone care to share how long it took to get it back going?