How do I (F28) balance a relationship with my boyfriend (M31) and my best friends?

After 10+ years of awful and backstabbing “friends” and being bullied all throughout my adolescent years I recently established a good and genuine group of girlfriends. They’re all single and like to do new and fun things. Restaurants, bars, trips, etc. they’re not catty or petty. They’d be understandable if I didn’t attend a few things but I recently just got back together my ex boyfriend. I’m not used to balancing a relationship as well as a fairly new group of girlfriends. I don’t want to be excluded because my boyfriend may or may not agree to going out to some places or doing some things out of respect for him (I.e, spontaneous strip clubs, vacations, having tables at clubs). My boyfriend doesn’t like to go out much and or wants to intrude on having a good time with me and my friends but now as of recently, my boyfriend has been feeling like I’ve been putting him at the end of the priority list because my friends and I have a few Saturday’s planned and I’ve been spending quite a few Saturday’s with them.

My boyfriend and I have been back together since October and we don’t live together but I’ll stay over his place nights at a time so it’s not like I don’t spend time or see him. He just feels unseen.

I never want to be that girl that becomes all about her bf and drops her friends or makes her relationship her whole life and I can’t have any fun.