Porn Addiction

To start off, this mostly happens to men and I wanted to create awareness. I call it THE RESURRECTION OF MEN.

It'll be a bit long so bear with meπŸ˜‚

English translation will be in {these brackets}

My friend recently told me he's addicted to porn and masturbation. Now, having done some few milkings in the past, I told him to just quit. Mzee akasema anajaribu hawachi{He was really trying to stop but he couldn't}. He was a one round specialist but akaongeza gear ikaenda hadi 8 or even 15 {he fapped more than the normal one round and it could even go on for 8 - 15 more rounds}.

It even escalated to a point where anaeza nyonga publicly jameni. Kuuliza publicly aje unaskia kwa mat, public toilets or even in the office. {The act got out of control to a point He would mindlessly fap in public places like in matatus, public toilets or in his workplace's office}.

He knew he had an issue saa zile mrija iliturn colour blue (at first ata nlishangaa kwani rada ni gani but after research I realised that it's because alinyonga akapata bruises) {He realised he's having an issue when his penis turned to a blue colour, which also was surprising to hear this but upon researching I found out that continous masturbation may cause bruises, which are mostly blue in colour}

I did not have difficulties stopping but this raised concerns. Now, being a good friend, I went and researched about porn, related addictions and from what I found out I just wanted to openly talk about this to whom that may be concerned. (i'll make it as short as I can)

Now, porn addiction is REAL, mostly happens to men and has devastating consequences such as inability to focus, lack of ambition, loss of memory, hair loss and if that isn't enough, you'll get Erectile Dysfunction and also Anorgasmia(In short njoti inapotea) {No sperms upon orgasm}, just to name a few.

How can you know you're addicted??

  1. You are compulsed to see or do it

  2. You can't control yourself to stop it

  3. You know it has these kinds of consequences but unajiguza guza bado wewe mzeeπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ {you know this kinds of consequences but you still 🀜🏽πŸ₯©πŸ˜‚πŸ’”}

  4. Cravings(mental or physical)

I'll start off by saying the society nowadays has normalised this from online leaks, onlyfans models and even guys openly talking about kunyonga adi uangukie vyombo, ati lazima ujue uko onπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚, which is nonsense but anyway hivo ndio unajua wakenya tunaelekea kubaya really really fast.

{Our society has accepted this kind of behaviour and there is prevalence of online leaks on social media, increasing local only fans models and even fap jokes being purported in mainstream media, which really shows how decaying the society is turning out.}

Now, let me get you into the game: Porn addiction has serious effects on the brain and can be categorized into 3(nitaongea in layman's terms mostly) {I'll explain as simply as I can}

  1. Sensitization. Normally, when you achieve things, you normally feel good, especially after hard work. If you like what you are doing, you'll probably do it again. The brain is systemized in a way that you'll always want more than feeling satisfied. In porn or masturbation, Orgasm feels really good, and is easy to achieve. So if you do this continously you'll find that the brain forms a pathway to use porn or masturbation as a getway to relief, and you can't get enough of it.

  2. De-sensitization. When you do masturbate or see porn, you'll find out that one round isn't enough or one video isn't enough. so you'll end up adding more rounds to feel "good" or in porn you'll find that you'll start watching other categories of porn to find the "perfect" video to end up with. In short, you'll add more rounds or videos to get the same pleasure as before. This leads to the brain building up a tolerance system and this now has some effects like Kunyonga hizo rounds kumi {fapping 10 rounds}, watching more porn(even escalating to extreme porn), masturbating without porn, developing some weird kinks and fetishes and other really bad stuff.

3.Hypofrontality. Now this is the reasoning part of the brain. This is the part responsible for making you second-guess things when the deal is too good, helps you set disciplines, gives you ambition, etc. Now porn/masturbation makes one to be sensitized to a point where you honestly know this is bad, but you can't stop. You detox for a week, then something happens and you're back again.

A quick side note. Ukiamua kuacha, acha completely. {If you really want to stop, just stop it all together}

intermittent use really hurts the brain. And this now mostly shows that even if you only watched porn twice or once or even masturbated, if you do it ati once per week ama {or} per month ama {or} per year.

You really are addicted and to prove this right, you'll know how hard it is to stop.

Like any other addiction, kuna {there are} withdrawal symptoms and you'll mostly realise that:

  1. You'll have strong cravings. Literally strong

  2. How difficult it is to stop (mostly you try, then relapse, then guilt, then relapse, then detox and the cycle continues)

  3. How bad it feels to give it up but you can't.

  4. Withdrawal symptoms can worsen for a while before the brain restores balance. It includes Insomnia, depression, anxiety and even mood swings etc.

But there is GOOD NEWS. Every addiction has been learned and it can be unlearned. Now mostly this is the hardest part. You see, older guys ( boomers and millenials) mostly are not affected by this. Most porn sites started around 2000's and for them, three months is ok and they go back to normal real quick. And hawakua na hii mambo ya 4G internet. {They didn't have high speed internet back then}

Now for Gen Z's and other current generations, porn is literally everywhere in any social media site, with as low as 10bob ya {for} bundles, unapata high speed 4G internet jameni. {Now any search is instantaneous thanks to the high speed 4G internet}

To make the matters worse is if you saw porn before puberty, chances of stopping are very minimal. Infact I read that it took one around 3 years to recover from all this. The effect of porn to a young developing brain is massive compared to someone who discovered porn or masturbation after marriage.

But as I said, this can all be unlearned. It will take time but I know whoever is affected in this has some information to keep him/her going.

I successfully helped my friend overcome this and now he is learning new habits, is positive towards life, was an introvert who turned to a pick up artistπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚, started going to the gym and developed a sense of direction. Life is really worth living ladies and gentlemen. CHANGE OR PERISH!!