Let’s discuss: How can we help others recognize these red flags? What resources have you found helpful in educating yourself or others about this form of abuse?
Domestic violence isn’t always about physical harm. One of the most insidious aspects is the control and manipulation abusers use to dominate their victims. These tactics can erode self-esteem, create dependency, and make it incredibly difficult for survivors to recognize abuse or leave.
Here are some common ways abusers exert control:
Isolation: Cutting victims off from friends, family, or support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.
Gaslighting: Making victims doubt their own memories, perceptions, or sanity to maintain power.
Financial Control: Restricting access to money, sabotaging employment, or creating financial dependence.
Emotional Manipulation: Using guilt, shame, or fear to control decisions and behavior.
Micromanagement: Dictating what victims wear, who they speak to, or how they spend their time.
These tactics aren’t always obvious, especially at the start of a relationship. Abusers often use charm and affection to mask their intentions, making it even harder for victims to identify what’s happening.
If any of this resonates with you or someone you know, remember: abuse is never your fault. Recognizing these signs is a powerful first step toward breaking free.
In the U.S., you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788 for confidential support.
Let’s discuss: How can we help others recognize these red flags? What resources have you found helpful in educating yourself or others about this form of abuse?