how can i be one of those pretty but nonchalant kinda girls

ok idk if im outing myself but sometimes a bish be wanting ATTENTION😭 and in order to get that i kinda act super hyper and whatnot but its soo icky tbh. how can i be one of those chill nonchalant girlys but still have a personality and still kinda get that attention (not necessarily from males but females too)