People Hating on Bottom Surgery

I get so pissed off. I see so many trans guys and transmasculine non binary people shitting on bottom surgery. Not on here as much but more in general trans spaces. I’ll see a trans man I think is cool online. Then he’ll get asked about bottom surgery and say shitty stuff about why he won’t get it. “It’s not advanced enough” “it doesn’t look real” “too much scarring” or other things. It’s totally fine not to want it, but what would these same guys be saying if someone said top surgery doesn’t look real and they were never getting it. They can just say that they don’t want bottom surgery or it isn’t for them. Instead of spreading misinformation and fearmongering. I DO want bottom surgery and it feels like no one in the broader trans community celebrates transmasc bottom surgery the way they do other transition steps. I feel like the only one who actually wants phallo sometimes. Even though I know lots of it is that lots of guys getting it are pretty stealth. I just want to feel supported by my community instead of like I’m doing it on my own. Honestly maybe this is too far but the way bottom surgery gets treated honestly feels legitimately transphobic at times. Like there are post op people watching you shit on their bodies. No wonder they want to separate themselves from the community, because you keep shitting on the bodies they worked so hard for. I mostly just want to vent. I figured you guys would understand.