Husband announced that feeding a crying baby is harder than pumping

My baby is 3 months old and spent the first 6 days of his life in the NICU - it was unexpected. I started pumping in the hospital to bring my milk in. I pumped 7x/day while barely sleeping, in the hospital and alone. After that, I experienced high anxiety with pumping and a lot of pain. I now pump 4x/day. Often, I pump while feeding, soothing or entertaining my baby - or while everyone else is sleeping! Our baby is amazing and he doesn't cry a ton. However, he gets cranky some evenings, especially when he's overtired. Often, my husband feeds the baby and rocks him to sleep while I do my late night pump and the baby usually cries, then calms to drink and sleeps and has been sleeping 10 hours for the last month. I also help him if the baby cries a lot to give him a break.

Well, after a few drinks, my husband announced to my family that feeding a crying baby is harder than pumping. I had a conversation later that, for someone who has witnessed how hard of a time I've had pumping, waking up through the night to build my supply, pushing through the initial pain and staying attached to a machine hours a day, how could you make a comparison like that? I can't believe I've had to have this conversation. He then apologized, but the next day made a comment that while he's trying to manage two children, I get to be upstairs with "my pump and tv" like it's spa day and I'm having me time. I don't need his support to do what I feel is right for my kids, but how do you deal with these comments? I'm tired of teaching an adult it's not okay to be unkind regardless of how tired you are.