6 years later, an update!

Posted here SIX years ago when I was absolutely gutwrenched and panicking from a breakup. Started the no contact rule because I was making an ass out of myself trying to do anything to get them back daily. I can say with certainty... NC WORKS. DO IT!

Life will always have its ups and downs but enlisting no contact was a solid way for me to begin the next chapter of my life and even made me feel less dependent on relationships for my own happiness with time.

I spent the first six months of no contact miserably depressed and itching to message them. Never did. As the rest of the first year went along, that urge slipped from me and I felt less and less interested in making a fool out of myself.

I made the mistake of jumping into other relationships too quickly trying to mirror what I had with my ex. Don't do that. I learned and grew from those experiences: you can't love someone else if your ex is still your top priority. Other people don't deserve that and you don't either.

The day finally came about three years after the breakup when my ex reached out to me. I sat there and thought about it endlessly but decided to not respond. Not out of spite or anger, but because by that point I simply had no reason to rope myself back into any association with them! I wanted solely to move on.

I want you to have this same experience. It's rough, it can be grueling, but six years later I am a legitimately healed person in a wonderful relationship once more! I would've never believed it six years ago but looking back, that breakup seems so insignificant and not worth being all broken and hurt about. This will pass.

Take care of yourself in this weird, depressing last week of the year lol. Please ask me any questions you may have about NC or reach out to me if you're hurting today. I believe in you!